What women want part II

ROMANCE ME!... WHAT WOMEN WANT PART 2

So it's Wednesday afternoon and you still don't know if you're gonna get some this weekend... you're at a loss for ideas or even prospects... Wow, that sucks!... maybe you're already in a relationship and it seems as though you tend to beg for that sexual relief and connection.

Unfortunately the possibility of a sexual encounter filled with fireworks is a bit "last year." Well my friends, you have come to the right place! As a relationship therapist and someone who enjoys a healthy and satisfying sexual life, I am here to help you achieve the most sexual fulfilling romance you have ever experienced.

READY??? HERE WE GO:
1.) Sex for women is not as one-dimensional as it is for men. By this I mean, a guy may have a sexual thought and immediately be ready to unleash his manhood... in other words, you think of sex and you can have it at the drop of a hat (guys, feel free to disagree). For a girl is a bit more complicated than that. For the most part, if we pick you as a sexual partner, we are also experiencing feelings of attachment, trust, and perhaps infactuation. If we engage in a sexual dance with you, we need to feel as though we are the only ones that you are interested in. Unfortunately for you guys, telling me that I am sexy 5 minutes before you are ready to have sex, but 1 hour after you stared at some chicks ass while at the restaurant is just not gonna cut it for us!
So what can you do if it is Wednesday afternoon and you're already thinking of weekend booty? Let's start by calling your girl (or prospect) on the way to work and letting her know how amazingly sexy she looked while she slept... ok, guys, please don't do it if you are not sincere, but instead, start looking for those moments when you can truly appreciate your girl's beauty. Find that one thing that turns you on about her and focus on it with consistency. This way, when you compliment her it is sincere. You will start finding yourself more and more turned on by your girl and less focused on the things that you dislike. This is something that you should practice daily!!!!>> Anyway, back to Wednesday ;)... Text her thoroughout the day and give her the attention that she deserves. Pick up a bottle of wine on your way home (find out what type of wine or other alcohol she likes).

Ok, I am NOT condoning alcoholism, lol, but to her, the fact that you though of her on your way home will allow her to feel loved and appreciated!...and a little alcohol may help you and her ease the stress of the day. If you are having dinner together and she is cooking, take 20 minutes and keep her company. Ask her about her day while she cooks. Don't run in front of the TV and tune her out as soon as she gets home. TRUST ME WHEN I TELL YOU: while she is in the kitchen and your ass is in front of the TV, she will be thinking about how hard she works and how unappreciative you are by escaping to television world!!.. This is a small sacrifice to make... once you chat with her for several minutes and give her a kiss in the kitchen (maybe grab her ass on your way out lol) she will feel more inspired to please you later! So what if you are the one that cooks or you order out? Same concept: MAKE THE TIME TO RECONNECT AFTER YOUR LONG DAY!!!

2).For us SEX begins with an emotional connection. The knowledge that we are appreciated as women and companions! The assurity that you think of us during your day away from us and that no matter who is around you, your ultimate thought to seduce us into the bedroom. HEY, IF YOU ARE THINKING THAT THIS IS TOO MUCH WORK, THEN I BET YOU ARE NOT GETTIN ENOUGH! Again, is mind blowing sex worth it to you? OFTEN??? Then keep reading...
So far we have appreciation, booty grabbing and alcohol. We're on our way!. If you do this you might get it that night, or not if she is carrying a bit of resentment from past hurts... See, we tend to carry emotional hurts with us a little too often and just cause you're doing these things, doesn't mean that you're home free. This is where the complexity of women comes in. Unfortunately many women use sex as a tool to punsish you guys for things that you've done tohat were hurtful. it sucks, but IT IS WHAT IT IS! Cant't change it, so might as understand the dynamic.
As you begin practicing these "romancing moves," in your mind you are earning "brownie points", but in our minds, you are still in the red... you still owe us some points from the past. Be patient and get good at romancing her>> THIS IS A VERY IMPORTANT POINT! Make sure that as you start practicing these notions, you understand that it is a way of life and not a transaction with the hope of gaining immediate gratification. As you begin to look at her as a sensual woman and focus on the good aspects of her physical and emotional being, your relationship will begin to turn in to a reciprocal sexual dance.

After you have shown appreciation to her daily and often, and the moment is right, you will see her transform into a more loving and appreciative person herself. At first she may ask what's up with "Mr. Casanova." But with time, she will understand that you are there for her and she will start focusing on the positives as well. Now, she will start trusting your intentions more readily and then you will be ready to let her know what turns YOU on! At that point you will feel as though you have the right to ask for the things that you want. So what do you want as a man?? Create your own vision of what you need to stay satisfied as a sexual being... Is it a lap dance? Is it a massage? What is it??? If it is a lap dance, plan before and make sure that the music is right. Perhaps pick up a cigar on the way home that night. No, not for you but for HER! The lighting is also crucial. Let her take care of that cause she needs to feel sexy and comfortable. Part of the preparation may be stopping at the HUSTLER store and picking up a little outfit... buy it for her and have her dance in it for you! IT IS ALL ABOUT MUTUAL SEDUCTION! For us the actual orgasm is important but equally important is foreplay. For many girls dancing for their man is a turn on in itself and by the time the actual act of sex is performed they are already there!

So here is a summary of today's lesson:
Begin noticing and commenting on her beauty. Provide her with your best listening skills while you are together. Dont't forget that instead of waiting for the right person to come along, you need to BE that person. Understand that sex for women is a truly multifaceted phenomenon that begins with respect, understanding and appreciation. You will see that your relationship will begin to flourish into a sensual companionship.

YOU BETTER GET TO WORK!!