Can we be friends?

So this is our first blog of 2010 and I felt compelled to write about something that tends to be a bit controversial... "Can men and women be just friends?"

I say it depends who you ask! If you ask a girl, she will tell you: ABSOLUTELY! I personally have many guy friends, and believe it or not, I prefer the male species with the exception of a few of my female friends who I trust blindly. It is not that simple, though... I believe that when it comes to men, they agree to being friends with the opposite sex, sometimes out of pure resignation. By this I mean that there are extenuating circumstances that impede them from pursuing a romantic twist to their friendship with girls. "Extenuating circumstances? What does that mean?!!" Well, that means that if given the opportunity, men would let go of the friendship and jump in the sack (or the back seat of their car) with their female friend.

I strongly believe that women hold the cards when it comes to friendship with men. It is not right or wrong, it simply IS! Of course this is a generalization and there are always exceptions, but guys, feel free to disagree! Let's paint a picture: your hot friend, whom you've shared secrets with and who you have fantasized about (even though she has had a boyfriend for the past 4 years), one day calls you and asks you to come over for drinks because she just broke up with her boyfriend. You are currently in a new relationship with someone you adore, but... GOSHHHH!!! Your friend needs you (yeah, who are you fooling haa haa!!). What would you do?!! Do you jump at the opportunity or do you refuse to "save the friendship?" I have a feeling I know the answer.

I go back to the notion that men and women are simply different. I believe that when we all agree to embrace our differences and celebrate our similarities, we would get along much better. SO guys, do not get upset if your current girlfriend disagrees with you spending too much time with girl "friends." We know that there is a very fine line between friends of the opposite sex. In general, men tend to be on the lookout for opportunities not just to "score" but to also brag about to their male counterparts. Women, on the other hand, love the attention that guy friends give them and will push the limit simply out of loneliness and desperation, not to mention the whole "competitive nature" with other females. IF there is an opportunity to get back at some bitch for doing us wrong, we might just push our friendship with the bitch's boyfriend out of spite... I know it is SOOO wrong, but it is also the truth.

SO WHAT TO DO? Can we really do this? Can we have healthy friendships with the other sex? I believe that we can in small quantities and with caution. Always setting clear boundaries and including your significant other in the general aspects of the friendship so to help them feel secure. Considering the "dangers" of this phenomena, the more people you involve, the more accountable you are AND THE BETTER YOU CAN SLEEP AT NIGHT lol... After all, shouldn't we all strive to do the right thing and do right by those who love and trust us?

Thanks for reading and until next time!!


Stella