Welcome back!! Here are some things that I have learned in this past year about the differences between men and women:
Although both sexes want to be loved, we tend to approach seeking for love in different ways... Men tend to have a "short attention span" when it comes to women, even if they are in a committed relationship. Men need to be constantly teased, not emotionally, but sexually, in order for them to keep their interest. When it comes to women, we love to be praised constantly, but not necessarily teased. We want to know that we are the one that you dream of... unfortunately, we don't necessarily want to put in the work to ensure that this happens. Ladies, time to start spending some time on making sure that you are as sexy as you can be. Then show him your progress through sexy emails and texts. You never know, if he is not looking at pics of you, he may be searching through the web trying to satisfy that "sexual ADD."
"Bros before whoes." Even though we frown at this notion, we as women should learn a bit from guys when it comes to camaradery and loyalty. Why is it that women are such biotches to each other? I can not tell you how many times I have been stabbed in the back by chics who I thought were my friends. A guy can hang out with his buddies and their gorgeous girlfriends, and as men, they usually do not have to worry about stealing each other's girls. On the other hand, if girls are hanging out with each other and there happens to be boyfriends in the mix, this is likely to happen:
The guys will take advantage of the fact that female relationships are fragmented and he will attempt to flirt with other girls knowing very well that he may get some ego stroking that night. Why? Because chics tend to be vindictive and to want what others girls have. I am not saying that all girls are this way. There are "girls' girls" in this world, but I can count the ones I know in one hand. The rest are simply over jealous females who are looking for opportunities to "dethrone" the alpha females in her pack.
Girls, guys know our weakness and they exploit it (even if it is subconsciously). Imagine if we lived in a world where us women had each other's back!! It will be a fantastic way to be more powerful as a female species.
Females self worth tends to come from others' feedback regarding our beauty and popularity. OK, guys are a bit this way too, but at the end of the day, a guy's worth is closely attached to how much sex he has and how many of his friends know this. Again, if us females were a bit more savvy, we would make sure that our guy was the most popular and powerful in his group by having sex with him as often as possible. Trust me when I tell you that he WILL BE PROUD OF YOU! And PLEASE do not say to him: ok, let's get it over with... You have no idea how many guys tell me that their chic has sex with him just because she feels an obligation. As women WE MUST learn to enjoy sex!! I read somewhere that every time we have a pleasurable sexual experience, we add years to our lives! C'mon girls, time to juice it up!
Finally, men want an uncomplicated relationship where they feel appreciated and are "stroked" frequently. Women tend to use their emotions as weapons of self destruction. KEEP IT SIMPLE girlfriends! Understand what makes you tick, and spell it out for him in black and white. STOP THE FREAKIN guessing games. Guys do not function well when they have to interpret and read between the lines. They like clear and concise communication regarding how to please you and keep you happy. If you as a girl, are feeling emotional (or hormonal), use those times to reach out and talk to your girlfriend, who will go along with your need to "talk it out." Before you actually talk to your man when in this type of state, please make sure that you've processed your emotions and that you know exactly what you'd like from him. Then in a non-emotional manner, let him know what you need. I promise that this will help. Guys DO want to please us, but unfortunately, we as girls, tend to make it difficult for them. Leave the guess work to game show contestants and use the your time to build the relationship that you want and deserve.
When we all decide to embrace the fact that we are different, and that men and women alike want the same outcome: a happy and healthy relationship, then we will start living and stop wasting our time. Yes, as corny as it sounds there is only one "today." So let's start fresh. Let's leave our mistakes for the past. As Louise L. Hay once said: "The past is over, so it has no power now. The thoughts of this moment create my future."
A brand new year is approaching, there is a blank slate in front of us. What thoughts and choices will you make? Will you come closer to the person you've intended to be and will you finally form the relationship that you've dreamed of?
Thank you for reading and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
Stella
